Hexagram 38: 睽

You're working with people or systems that fundamentally operate differently from you. This isn't a problem to solve—it's a condition to understand and use. Here's the crucial insight: don't try to bring about unity by force. That's like running after a horse that's gone—it only goes farther away. If it's your horse, it will return on its own. If someone belongs with you, they'll come back after a misunderstanding without you forcing it. If they don't belong, trying to force connection only creates real hostility instead of mere difference. Depeche Mode figured this out: the band worked precisely because they didn't try to become the same. Martin Gore didn't become a rock frontman. Dave Gahan didn't become a synth nerd. They each maintained their nature and let the differences create productive friction. The hedge opens naturally when you stop butting against it. In situations of opposition, you limit yourself to small matters where cooperation is still possible. Don't try to force grand unified theories or comprehensive solutions. Work on the specific problems where your different approaches actually complement rather than cancel. Maintain your individuality—your fire remains fire, their water remains water. The cultured person isn't led into baseness through intercourse with another sort. Regardless of commingling, individuality is preserved. The failure mode is isolation that comes from misunderstanding—seeing your companion as a pig covered with dirt, as a wagon full of devils. Drawing your bow against someone who's actually approaching with good intentions. The rain falls when you realize the mistake. The union resolves the tension at the climax. Opposition changes over to its antithesis exactly when it reaches maximum intensity. So maintain yourself. Don't force unity. Work in small matters where alignment is natural. Trust that opposition within a comprehensive whole serves its purpose.